tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post3321522103446831886..comments2024-03-28T10:43:04.567-04:00Comments on Them's My Sentiments: Life, Looks and LibidoMARY Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13178370815712313585noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-4821784697006040432013-06-21T12:00:06.735-04:002013-06-21T12:00:06.735-04:00Maggie May, we come from the same era! The one whe...Maggie May, we come from the same era! The one where little girlhood lasted until about age 13, as I recall.<br /><br />De, painful sex and lowered libido seem to me to be a 'which came first' problem. And a complex one. And I hope you snarled at your (male) biased physician.<br /><br />I've never sorted out the difference between what my reasoning power tells me and my gut reaction to some of these body issues. But I will tell you that when I react without thinking, a dinosaur would be more understanding. OUCH!<br />MARY Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178370815712313585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-66385296564580511732013-06-21T07:36:39.586-04:002013-06-21T07:36:39.586-04:00I've been in the Gyn office having this same c...I've been in the Gyn office having this same conversation - how my "problems" of painful sex and lowered libido wouldn't be problems at all if I didn't have a partner who wants to have sex more frequently than I do. My (male) physician told me I was lucky because he sees a lot of cheating and divorce over the issue, instead of communication.<br /><br />I haven't yet had the time to follow your links, but I am intensely interested. I do come biased, though - NO WAY will I believe that female humans evolved into menopause just because males desired younger specimens. <br /><br />This - "the norms seem to indicate that anything goes but in actual fact punish a lot of behaviours" - I experienced first-hand in my youth, and I still haven't sorted it out properly for the purposes of dealing with my own children. I guess I'll be honest to the point of embarrassing them with the caveat that I could be wrong and they should examine their own feelings on a case by case basis.Dehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06402697423507846690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-69289821203513450032013-06-20T04:59:38.581-04:002013-06-20T04:59:38.581-04:00This made fascinating reading.
Granddaughter wanti...This made fascinating reading.<br />Granddaughter wanting a bikini is the influence on the media, I think. I notice that girls are acting more like teenagers at a much younger age these days, even before puberty.<br />I agree with a lot of your comments in that post about the menopause and think especially that girls/women of ample proportions look awful cramming into short skirts & crop tops and that women in shrouded wear look like sex objects.<br />Maggie x<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-52890651641654104752013-06-18T14:10:51.638-04:002013-06-18T14:10:51.638-04:00Jennifer, I really hope so! I figure she sees it a...Jennifer, I really hope so! I figure she sees it as a more convenient thing to wear if you need to go and pee - she's always been a pool swimmer.<br />Nance, for sure there have been other criteria. Alas that what our kids read are fairy tales in which the princess is always beautiful. What I hate about the 'vanity' thing is how easy it is to buy into it.<br />Sarah, I keep wondering what kind of body image you have if you have to wear, say, a chador.<br />AC, I love shoes. I have too many. But I can walk comfortably in all of them. Learned this after catching a heel in a grate at a University Library and measuring my length in front of a lot of amused people.MARY Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178370815712313585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-63149382087159594922013-06-18T14:01:09.625-04:002013-06-18T14:01:09.625-04:00This is really an aside to your whole post, but I ...This is really an aside to your whole post, but I wonder if your granddaughter equates a bikini with growing up, since most teenage girls & adults wear them; and I also wonder if, when she has one & realizes for herself how uncomfortable it is, she'll set it aside.Jennifer (ponderosa)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17712875613623664156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-27862459971084885322013-06-18T09:35:13.324-04:002013-06-18T09:35:13.324-04:00I am fascinated and appreciative of your point abo...I am fascinated and appreciative of your point about the pharm industry clamouring to make a pill to increase menopausal libido in women rather than decreasing it in men. Why must we always fix woman, indeed. <br /><br />Every generation--even before mass media--chose suitable mates based upon Ideals of the time. It's an obvious statement, but think about earlier centuries when fairness of face/stature wasn't the standard. A sturdy frame for work, childbearing, or child care for a widower would supersede beauty. Stature in society, contingent lands to increase wealth, marriages for treaties, etc. <br /><br />But your inherent points are well taken in the context presented. I think it's why I take such issue with the adage 'Vanity, thy name is Woman.' How much of said 'Vanity' is almost a survival skill?Nancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627214346956206283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-36291721008040000212013-06-18T09:26:44.795-04:002013-06-18T09:26:44.795-04:00Fascinating stuff. I think you've hit the nai...Fascinating stuff. I think you've hit the nail on the head: that female libido is very closely aligned with body image - and media of all types suggest that if we're middle-aged, our body image should be in the toilet. Ergo our libido.<br /><br />This made me laugh: (Read that over when you're past seventy, Margaret, and you are going to cringe!)Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5668392343139286753.post-14160205932816737442013-06-18T07:35:17.635-04:002013-06-18T07:35:17.635-04:00I would have thought that menopause would have bee...I would have thought that menopause would have been built into our species long before almost any women made it to that age, so I find it difficult to think that it's an adaptation as postulated. But that's my lack of education coming to the fore, I suppose.<br /><br />You mention shoes. what is it with women and shoes? There are never enough shoes, it seems.<br /><br />As for the religious coverings inspired by misogynism, don't get me started.Anvilcloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07974744042579564912noreply@blogger.com