The View From Forty-Two
- Sarah Piazza
written in 2010
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Mommy! My son exclaimed Just the other day: You look like A tree! — and He chortled, then, At the offense: This green shirt, Those brown pants. I was delighted. |
When I am old I hope the boy, Grown to man, sees Value In weathered skin Like bark, In hair so white It might cap Even rogue waves, In ropy-veined legs Working overtime, Bulging, and blushing, With dedicated effort. |
And all that day I felt strong. Rooted. Proud, to provide Shade, and a moment Or two to contemplate For a wanderer Who might weep, grateful, To find me sturdy, To find me Still. |
Way back when blogs were popular, Sarah wrote and posted
this. At the time, I was 68, with a seven-year-old grandkid, and this poem spoke to me in a way that the author and the other young mothers in the blog ambiance could not relate to in the same way. I was backing up my daughter in
caring for her daughter, looking after the child when that was needed. My other
daughter was working overseas, in a job with a lot of stress, and calling on me
to manage something she could not here, although only rarely. And, yes, I was proud
to be in their lives, to be a convenience. Sturdy. Yes.
These same words curl into my conscious thought now so
differently. If I once provided shade, I am now shaded, generously, often. Both
my daughters live in the city near us and they check on us, carefully,
thoughtfully, often. They do things for us that need doing. They are a great
and continuing help for the parents whose skin has weathered, hair turned fine
and white as foam on a breaker, legs ceased to work well anytime. For whom just living is an effort.
I am so grateful for them. For them to be here for us. For
all that I know they will do, willingly, cheerfully, until they no longer find
me.

In time we must accept the help that is offered (proffered?).
ReplyDeleteEither will do, but 'proffer' is the Latinate version, and is used in courts, Mirriam Webster tells me.
DeleteI do, but I wish I were the offerer, not the recipient.
I am struck by how age has shifted what you take from the poem. I’m also touched by your sharing it. We never did meet in person, and yet you are someone I love dearly. This morning I am sending that love out to you.
ReplyDeleteAnd me, too. Right back atcha. Is it allowed to have a daughter of the heart? Don't care if it is or isn't, there you are.
DeleteI will gladly accept the position of daughter of the heart. ❤️
DeleteAnon comment is mine…
DeleteYep. Got that.
DeleteBoth the poem and your words ring true.
ReplyDeleteI love it. The writer is a friend I cherish. Truth is a gift, even when it hurts.
DeleteWhat a beautiful poem! As you know, I am a Tree Appreciator And Defender from way back. This poem resonates with me on that level and on a maternal one, as it does you.
ReplyDeleteYour musings on it are lovely and also echo my experience in a way. And I am sorry that your life requires more effort than it should. XXOO
What I lack is discipline to get more strength, more interactions, things that would help down the line. Yes, I know your love affair with trees and I figured you would like this. The author is a highly skilled and sensitive person; her writing is a source of joy.
DeleteAs is yours, birthday person.
Thank you, friend. Compliments on my writing are for me the height of praise.
DeleteLots to compliment about.
DeleteThis poem definitely speaks to me. I love this. Thank you for sharing it with all of us.
ReplyDeleteIt is a lovely piece of writing, for sure. My daughter just found it and she was taken with it too.
DeleteThat is a sweet one.
ReplyDeleteJenn, she is a remarkable woman. She writes so very, very well.
DeleteThis poem and the message it conveys applies both to humans and trees and is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteYes, complex and lovely.
DeleteWonderful words, and we can all respond to them, as offerers, recipients. It takes grace to accept what cannot be changed.
ReplyDeleteIt does, and I have to work at the grace; I hate having to have help as, I suspect, my parents did from me, but they never let me know it.
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